Love Languages

Yesterday, Matt and Mace got into an argument. Arguments with a strong-willed, super smart, 9-year-old are bound to happen, so it was really nothing “new.” Although, (I won’t speak for Matt completely) this one hurt his feelings. Just like kids need time to process, so do adults. We need a minute away to make sure our emotions and thoughts do not get the best of us in a way that might harm someone further. I applaud the fact that he knows himself well enough to know that he needs to take a step back.

Macey came downstairs in tears stating that she felt bad for hurting his feelings. She has the softest heart, but it’s VERY hard for her to admit when she’s wrong and to willingly say, “I’m sorry.” I had the perfect opportunity to talk her through why his feelings might be hurt, how he needs a minute alone, and how it’s okay; we all do. But, I also had the opportunity to talk through love languages. You know the book that most people chalk up to using in marriage or pre-marital counseling sessions? Yes, that one. I am a firm believer that you can use love languages for all relationships. I told her that there is a way we receive love and a way that we typically show love and talked her through each one. I let her know that when thinking about these love languages, it’s about thinking of the other person over yourself. So, my challenge to her was ultimately to put her selfishness aside, to say I’m sorry, and to think about something that Matt would love and appreciate.

I am not at all a pro-parent and I truthfully am unsure if that was a good way to mend the argument, but I want to continue to teach her that the more selfless you are, the better you show Christ through your words and your actions.